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Archive for the ‘Rape’ Category

Victim Blaming

Posted by Curt on Wednesday, 14 July 2010

This post could potentially be very controversial, but it needs to be said.  I must insist that if you choose to criticize my stance here to please read this post through very thoroughly.  One’s position on this topic is very easy to misinterpret and no discussion can occur without one made in good faith.

It seems that, particularly in feminist circles, any hint of blaming the victim or suggesting that a victim bears some responsibility for not preventing his or her (mostly her) own victimization is one of the more reprehensible and appalling things one can do, short of being the victimizer.  Indeed, this makes sense – I did write about how, in feminist theory, such attitudes foster an environment in which such crimes may occur more frequently.  In this light, it’s easy to see why individuals who put some blame on a victim, or question a victim’s actions that put him or herself in a position to be victimized are vilified; it’s all a part of the bigger picture to stop such things.

Much of it also comes from simple disgust over giving somebody who’s already violated and hurt an even harder time, especially if they believe the criticizer appears to not fully understand the situation.  It’s all a lot easier said than done.  Hindsight is a bitch.  The victim surely has all of this running through his or her head over and over to the point of a burning exhaustion, are pointing out such things helpful or productive in the slightest? Read the rest of this entry »


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The Distortion that is Rape Culture

Posted by Curt on Wednesday, 30 June 2010

This joke is an example of rape culture.

In my last post, I said I was going to get around to talking about rape culture, and indeed, this isn’t the first time it was brought up.  Rape culture is no simple matter; it’s complicated to the point where I cannot easily discuss it without devoting an entire post to it.  Thus it is time that I addressed it.

Finally Feminism 101 has a post regarding rape culture.  The definition they provide, which comes from the book Transformation a Rape Culture, is as follows:

“A rape culture is a complex of beliefs that encourages male sexual aggression and supports violence against women. It is a society where violence is seen as sexy and sexuality as violent. In a rape culture, women perceive a continuum of threatened violence that ranges from sexual remarks to sexual touching to rape itself. A rape culture condones physical and emotional terrorism against women as the norm.

In a rape culture both men and women assume that sexual violence is a fact of life, inevitable as death or taxes. This violence, however, is neither biologically nor divinely ordained. Much of what we accept as inevitable is in fact the expression of values and attitudes that can change.” Read the rest of this entry »

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My Take on the Feministe Post “Jesus was such a cockblocker”

Posted by Curt on Monday, 28 June 2010

Last Saturday, guest blogger Erica wrote on Feministe about the experience of a woman she knows who dated a devout Catholic guy named Scott, who believed that sex outside marriage is a sin.  The narrator of that piece did not believe so and desired sex with Scott; so much so to the point that she was nagging and pressuring Scott to have sex with her.  Scott eventually gave in and they did wind up having sex, but with certain conditions that annoyed the narrator.  The sex ultimately turned out to be very short and disappointing to the narrator, to the point that she ridiculed him and, after breaking up, his newfound wife and (rather large) family.  The ultimate point of this piece was to demonstrate that religion, specifically Christianity, poses unnecessary restraints for sexual freedom.

While that ultimate point may have been well taken, the post generated a fair bit of controversy.  Many Feministe commenters claimed that the narrator of that piece essentially raped Scott through coercing him to have sex with her and questioned her sexual ethics (or lack of), which you can safely assume they would say the same thing if the genders were reversed.  Erica wrote another post responding to the argument that arose in the comments where she defended the narrator’s character, claiming that yes while the narrator’s sexual ethics were not the best, she was young and inexperienced, ultimately emphasizing that the most important thing was for her to come out and be open and honest about her experiences.  It was basically a call to hate the sin but love the sinner, which some commenters found inexcusable. Read the rest of this entry »

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The Rapist Checklist

Posted by Curt on Monday, 21 June 2010

You may have heard of it.  Some time ago, someone apparently sat down and compiled a checklist of things which they considered makes one a rapist.  It is often associated with feminists, but I think it’s more of a strawman than anything.  If you google it, its entry in Encyclopedia Dramatica is among the first to come up, which does call its validity into question (UPDATE: Daran from pointed out that the list originated from a feminist with the pseudonym Biting Beaver).  It may have been something a person legitimately believed (indeed, some out there do believe that each point, or almost all points, on the checklist is more or less rape) but perceived as so ridiculous by others that it got its own entry in there.  It’s hard to say.  The point is, realize that this is not something all feminists (or even most feminists) may necessarily agree with, and I don’t want to leave anybody with the implication that it is. Read the rest of this entry »

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Power Dynamics in Rape and among Rape Victims

Posted by Curt on Monday, 14 June 2010

The Power Button (okay, so it's not usually used in this context, but whatever! I couldn't find anything better)

About five days ago, Meghan at Feminisms wrote a post in response to Cara’s post on men being victims of rape at The Curvature.  Meghan criticizes Cara for tackling the issue of rape against men by treating the rape against men on a more or less equal basis as the rape against women (assuming the rape is committed against them by a member of the opposite gender – male on female rape, female on male rape).

I’m going to paraphrase Meghan’s argument right here to make it as concise as possible, so please correct me if I get something wrong as I really want to be fair with this.

– Gender matters.  There is a specific power dynamic behind gender, one which favors men and hurts women.
– Consequently, this power dynamic impacts how men and women commit and deal with rape, with the implication that men are able to deal with it and commit it from a position of power, thus hurting them less, compared to women who are generally in a victimized position.
– Thus (given the title of her post) the issue of rape against men should not be regarded as a significant issue, or at the very least, an issue feminists should treat as equal to the rape against women.
– Similarly, racism against a white person shouldn’t be regarded as (and thus as bad as) racism against a non-white person and shouldn’t be seen as significant an issue.

Meghan’s post goes in greater depth justifying those points, so please go read it if you’re bewildered at how anyone can believe in such things. Read the rest of this entry »

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